Comments on: ‘Why do I need self defense? I live in a safe area.’

By: 21 self defense questions you (and your teenagers) may want to think about

21 self defense questions you (and your teenagers) may want to think about — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:43:24 +0000

[...] of us don’t like to think of the worst case scenarios when it comes to self defense. Denial seems to be a sweeter, softer place. But parents can’t have that luxury. Parents sign on to [...]

By: Will the Jaycee Lee Dugard kidnapping be a wake-up call to parents?

Will the Jaycee Lee Dugard kidnapping be a wake-up call to parents? — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:34:46 +0000

[...] of us would like to put our head in the sand about such crimes. We want to think the Garridos are an anomaly. We turn a blind eye to reality and [...]

By: One woman learns self defense is a mindset

One woman learns self defense is a mindset — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:28:03 +0000

[...] from black and white to color. Like many people who live in a fairly safe environment, my friend assumed she was safe and did not feel any extra awareness was [...]

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:27:27 +0000

Hi Patricia,
Old Woman — Sage — Crone — Wise Woman — yes, indeed! I’ll have to check out that book. I turn 50 in a matter of weeks. Uncluttering is a good word for this time of life.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:19:35 +0000

Lori,
I think I have worked this aspect of my life through for my younger years, but I am now sorting out life and working on discovering the “OLD WOMAN” …it is quite a process of looking again at what one experienced and decluttering – throwing things out….sorting and letting go….keeping just a few things close…I am loving this process and Sue Monk Kidd just wrote about the stages of woman in Traveling with Pomegranates adding Greek Mythology and her daughter’s journey into it…
very interesting…
Very creative experience….I highly recommend it

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:04:06 +0000

Hi Patricia,
Glad you passed on the lessons to your girls!

There’s a saying – Rape is a life sentence — meaning it can affect a person for life. I’m sure sexual abuse in any form is the same. I wish you could have found some resolution with that professor. It sounds like he is still with you in many ways.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 22:46:47 +0000

Self-defense is part of knowing and liking yourself – it is hooked into the self-esteem parts of our being… I made sure all of my girls had self-defense classes and one even became a brown belt.

I was in a really “safe” zone….when my graduate school faculty reached down my blouse and grabbed my breast during a final exam. It was a very safe zone for the professor to do that….I broke his nose and jaw….he was still safe …I was extremely vulnerable and close to graduation….I have never been referred to a church position by this highest of high universities…I am still paying.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 04:14:04 +0000

Hi Cath,
Hopefully their wake-up call arrives before something happens.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 02:17:18 +0000

Hi Lori – This is so true. Too many people wander round with the Disneyland mentality when they’re in a relatively safe place. They’d probably be safer in a more dangerous place, as they’d be watching their backs.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:06:47 +0000

Hi Sara,
I don’t think you made a mistake with the security guy in the store. Please don’t belittle your skill! He obviously did not fit in, in ways that made you more alert. I think it’s awesome that you picked up on him! Intuition and awareness is always a better bet than second guessing.