Comments on: Why are narcissists such crazy-makers?

By: Ricky R

Ricky R — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 08:34:57 +0000

Hello lori, just wanted to say thanx for your free Ebook for clearing things up on a living narcissit, you couldnt had put it more clearly my closest friend and recently girlfriend for 7 months was a clear narcissit i dont know whats happend to me but this subject has become an obsession for me since we split up, to find out why these things in my relasionsip were happening. The pain is actually unbearible and she used every insurecurity i had to bring me down very slowly without evan knowing or careing what would happen to me, i lost my passion, skills and become very antisocial an maybe evan depressed at times with thoughts going round and round in my head for why why why this was all happening , ive left the country for a while and told her i never wanna speak or see her again, its been such a hard dessision and i think her child life trauma is definatly to blame which i have to say is unimaginable for me to understand . Im happy people like you are there for us victims! this experience has made me clued up on narcissits in my life but ive lost a person in my life who i cared for dearly and now shes gone its left me in pieces….. once again thank you soo much for your Ebook i guess its a shame i didnt know about this information along time ago.

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By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 14:21:53 +0000

Hi Vered,
Narcissists can be everywhere, can’t they?

My hope is that those who haven’t “been educated the hard way” by a narcissists can avoid a lot of grief by reading my posts and by you and others passing on the information to teenagers.

Hi Deb,
“doesn’t even begin to describe the dynamic” — so true. Until you’ve been exposed to them for awhile, it is hard to believe a person can be wired so completely differently than functional people.

Hi Barbara,
Thank you and congrats on freeing yourself from their ways!

Our project recently had some help come its way, so now it will be even more awesome!

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 09:46:59 +0000

Hi Lori,

You’ve nailed narcissists perfectly. Fortunately I’ve rid myself of those that have been in my life.

Congratulations on yours and Betsy’s upcoming project. Rumor has it, it’s awesome.

By: Deb Dorchak

Deb Dorchak — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 13:04:52 +0000

Sometimes it pays to be up at an ungodly hour on a Sunday morning. I actually read my feedreader and find links to blogs like this. Anything with a fellow female martial artist in it is enough to grab my attention and keep me reading. Add to that an interesting post like this one and you’ve got a winner.

Wicked, weird and wacky doesn’t even begin to describe that dynamic and no matter how you slice it, it’s not pretty.

Thanks for the insight this morning. You can bet I’ll be back for more.

By: vered | blogger for hire

vered | blogger for hire — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 23:22:33 +0000

In an ideal world, you would be able to filter out all the narcissists and stay away from them. In the real world, some of them are family or coworkers… impossible to completely stay away.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 22:52:33 +0000

Hi SB,
Welcome and thanks for commenting.

Narcissists can partner fairly successfully with some types who crave the drama and the second lead dog position. It is a wicked, weird, and wacky dynamic.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 22:50:56 +0000

Hi Davina,
It’s not a pretty sight.

By: SB

SB — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 21:50:32 +0000

“So basically, they defy all logic and keep “pulling the rug out from under you.” Can you imagine two narcissists playing off of each other? Oh the power trips.”

I think my ex-narcissist-husband’s new partner (she was the OW he had affair with before we divorced) is also a narcissist. Oh boy, sometimes I would love to be a fly on the wall in their loveboat!

By: Davina

Davina — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 02:02:00 +0000

So basically, they defy all logic and keep “pulling the rug out from under you.” Can you imagine two narcissists playing off of each other? Oh the power trips.