Because they are blind and clueless to their own nature, arguing — or just talking to narcissists and crazy-makers — is like trying to lasso the wind.
Here are a few recent tweets on Twitter I’ve used to explain some of their ways:
Why are narcissists such crazy-makers?
- Their subconscious creates a false ego from which to relate to the world. They are their own avatar!
- Subconsciously real relationships don’t exist for them. We’re all just players on the narcissists stage.
- They create stories, euphemisms, sayings, definitions, rules they hold up as Truth. Their world is false.
- They must talk about themselves & be in control. They want you to just be an ego-stroking entity for them.
- Their charm is false. Contradict them a few times & you’ll feel their out-of-proportion narcissistic rage.
- Their sole subconscious pursuit is to be seen as God’s gift to the world in a certain area or skill set.
- They don’t use language as communication. It’s for hiding, deflecting, avoiding, masking, & manipulating.
- Their conversations & interactions aren’t meant to enlighten, but to confuse, control, & create drama.
- They see personality weaknesses & exploit them as easily as you & I ride a bicycle.
Want to know more? Take a look at
The Narcissist — A User’s Guide
UPDATE ON MY TWEETS:
Why are narcissists crazy-makers?
- Their blame-shifting creates defensiveness. Then they belittle the defensiveness: “Why are you so angry?”
- Since they shift blame so well & seamlessly, your guilt/insecurity issues stay raw and over-sensitive.
- They lend you a hand up, then subtlety cut off at the knees to keep you indebted & coming back.
- They give you a metaphorical rug & then keep pulling it out from under you
- They are: blowhards, braggarts, blusterers, brow-beaters, bullies, big-headed, and ultimately bogus.
- They can help you gain certain skills/info/connections, but then forever make you feel beholden to them.
- They are extremely skilled at making anyone under their influence crave their approval.
- They make you feel special & then emotional distance themselves in ways that keep you unsure of yourself.
- They use a judgmental “you’re OK”/”you’re not OK” yo-yoing to keep you off-balance & “blameworthy.”
- They groom people via manipulation (charm/rage combo) to sell their reality/rationalizations to others.
- Early emotional trauma freezes their worldview at that age,making them immature, impatient, inconsiderate.
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