Landing after bo-supported side kick
When I started this website last May, it revolved around the launch of my first ebook, Think Like a Black Belt: Take Charge of Your Own Safety. (My second ebook on narcissism is now available.)
Both the first ebook and blog came about because I looked at my own personal safety and realized it would be a rare day that I’d have to use my 3rd degree black belt skills.
Why?
Self defense against criminals, bullies, and predators is often more about relationship than combat. Muggers, rapists, and con artists cast their eye for a certain type of person they think they can control on some level.
To avoid their radar and control, I use the power of body language, intuition, awareness, a strong voice, boundary setting, pattern recognition, response vs. reaction, and a whole host of other non-martial arts skills
You can discover these for yourself. I write about them in my ebooks and on this site.
Yes, taking a violence prevention session or a combat or martial arts class is fun, fulfilling, and fitness-building. You will learn much, so I recommend them.
But until then, check out my best-read articles:
Most Popular Articles
What you can do about a shooter in the building, Part One
What you can do about a shooter in the building, Part Two
Getting to know your intuition
How our intuition warns of danger
Signs and traits of emotional predators
Mental Toughening and Awareness Building
What color code are you today? (Developing Vigilance)
Distractions help movie heroes and self defense
Why you need to learn street cop body language
Stop panic — three ways to unfreeze
Karate yells: Bogus or big help in self defense?
Narcissists, Emotional Predators, Dark Hearts
Signs and traits of emotional predators
Three ways a narcissist can take control
Five traits of a narcissistic ‘crazymaker’
The Blame Game of emotional predators
Defense Against the Dark Hearts
Basic Self Defense Moves
Mythbusting and self defense (Self Defense Made Easy)
The key to using keys in self defense
Self defense against a front hair grab
Self Defense with ‘Heel Palm Strike’
Intuition
Getting to know your intuition
Intuition — first self defense weapon of choice
Intuition will save your life – can you access it?
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Hi Lori .. thanks – it’s really good to know that these posts are here, as it’s something that I thought I should explore at some stage .. especially as I get older. The relationship element, is as you say, important. Thank you -Hilary
Hi Hilary,
Please do explore! I’m happy to provide these.
Hi there,
) Good luck with the ebook! I hope it reaches loads of folk who’d benefit.
Missed you! I found this post as I was dipping my toes back into blogging waters. As always, a huge thank you; I sent this list straight to my teenage daughter as a handy revision reference. I wish you had a DVD too. (Maybe you could think about that as a future project
Hi Janice,
Good to hear from you! Thank you for the well-wishes!
DVD conceptually is in the works — you’ve not seen karate taught until you’ve seen me break it down with memorable specifics and humor.
Hi,
I came across this site while searching for something to help me prepare a pre-teen for possible mandatory visitation with an emotionally and physically abusive parent. Yeah… I know. Shouldn’t be. But it sometimes is.
What you write is geared for older people. Do you know anything (free) that I can use for this child? I don’t even know what the child needs to know, let alone how to teach it, yet the responsibility has been given to me and I intend to do it as best I can.
Hi TS,
That’s a tough one. You’d have to make sure there was outstanding support and encouragement for the child before and after so he or she will believe in their own worth and not what the abusive person says.