Comments on: To take a stand takes courage, ownership

By: This time baby, I'll be bulletproof

This time baby, I'll be bulletproof — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:21:55 +0000

[...] To take a stand takes courage, ownership [...]

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 19:00:35 +0000

Hi Barbara.
You a wallflower?! Not that I’ve ever seen!

Oooh a book of black belt quotes…hmmmm…

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 07:52:07 +0000

Hi Lori – aka Quote Master,

Don’t forget to include this quote in your “Book of Black Belt Quotes”,

But in the end, a person who Thinks Like A Black Belt must be able to look in the mirror and admire the integrity of the person looking back.

Thank you for this thought provoking post. It reminds me of what I don’t want to be, i.e. a wallflower

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 19:51:08 +0000

Hi Hillary,
Acting on behalf your mother is a noble thing — trust me, I know the protective feelings that come up there! Glad it worked itself out.

Hi Walter,
There is a time to bend with the wind, but I’m referring to those moments you must take a stand or life is made worse.

By: Walter

Walter — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 05:35:56 +0000

There are times when taking a stand get complicated. I do believe that we must take into consideration the consequences when we make our stand. I oftentimes see people who take a stand based on their pride rather than reason. While taking a stand is ideal, I would not find it always applicable. There’s a time to be firm and a time to sway.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 06:55:22 +0000

Hi Lori .. I have in the last four years .. taken stands more than 3 times against the local council, against the Nursing Centre where my mother is, and against a hospital in London .. perhaps made serious complaints is a better phrase.

However the Nursing Centre down here – one of the senior people would fit your category .. and as I was acting on behalf of my mother – but her vitriole was directed against me .. it was difficult & I had no support from the family. Social Services & thus the police were called .. and I carried on writing & documenting everything .. eventually she left under a cloud, and then the manager also left in December. Now we seem to be moving on more happily. The staff backed me & knew I wouldn’t have done what she accused me of – but she coerced them .. & it was very unfair on my mother .. but my Ma understood. Fortunately our massage-therapist-healer, who is so calm & spiritual, kept us going and was there everyday when I was banned!!!!! to check on things & kept me informed with a daily commentary.

Anyway we’re past that – but being in this situation .. acting on behalf of my mother .. has been difficult .. and my family show traits too .. I’m sure I do to – but just at the moment I need to be as balanced as I can be & take that forward .. my uncle supported me too when he was alive .. so by default I’ve learnt & fought my corner (our corner).

Anyway .. the road ahead is easier and the new Manager is excellent & supportive … so those loads have gone (relatively) .. but the stories linger on! – tales to tell for the future – so others can glean something from the experiences.

Thanks for these posts – I mut come back and read properly .. as I didn’t think I needed them – but realised soon after that I actually did – which distresses me .. as it’s family .. but there we go.

Have a good Sunday & week ahead .. Hilary

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 16:07:09 +0000

Hi Davina,
As a senior martial arts instructor, I shy away from the phrase “stand up for my honor” because it implies too much ego or that I’m in a defensive position after someone dissed me. I prefer to stand up for principles, stand by my integrity, and stand for something.

Hi Betsy,
I’m glad you find more people speaking up. I overheard a conversation at a restaurant yesterday that let me know people aren’t being so silent about the fundamental transformation underway. What really gets my goat is the lack of independence in the news media. As an old-school journalist, I can’t believe how spin has become more important than presenting the facts, telling the stories of all sides, and a throwing in a modicum of perspective and then stepping back to let the audience make its own mind up about a topic.

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 12:03:07 +0000

Amen. Facebooked this one, Lori. One of the (many) things I admire about you is how fiercely principled you are. It is an honor to be associated with you, whether it’s as co-author of our e-book, or as a friend who shares many of the same beliefs.

I am finding there are many more who are setting aside their fears to speak up and speak out. It’s a breath of fresh air. Thanks.

By: Davina

Davina — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 07:18:24 +0000

Hi Lori.
As I was reading this, I couldn’t help but think that there are a lot of different ways to look at this. I found myself thinking about just what you finished off with; standing up for your honour. Then another thought occurred to me: by handling a situation where someone is offending you, in a way, by putting a stop to it, not only are you defending your honour, but you are giving them an opportunity to not do or say something they might later regret. Now, I’m getting philosophical, lol.