Comments on: Three ways a narcissist can take control

By: JW

JW — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 20:39:01 +0000

I have dealt with a couple of former coworkers whom on looking back, I would consider Dark Hearts, especially the last one of the two that I worked with. She seemed nice and outgoing and friendly, but there was just something about her that gave me the creeps. I always felt like she was trying to take the parental role with me and was making subtle comments to undermine my efforts. I most certainly didn’t appreciate it. I think that she probably thought I was too stupid to catch on to her behavior, but I had been observing her tactics since the first week I started at the job so I knew what she was all about, and I wasn’t the only one with whom she exhibited that behavior. I also grew up in the care of several Dark Hearts, who tried to tear down my self-esteem, so I intuitively knew the patterns of behavior to look out for. This blog is reassuring and helpful.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 13:08:05 +0000

Hi JJ,
Welcome to my site.

Try this site and the links she has: http://www.oneangrydaughter.com/

By: JJ

JJ — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 06:27:47 +0000

Does anybody have any “info or experience with a narcissistic mother, Very tough situation! any leads would be very much appreciated, signed, drained and heartbroken.

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By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:23:18 +0000

Hi ML,
Thank you for visiting and commenting.

Glad the post could help! Just remember we all are manipulative at some time or another, but Dark Hearts exhibit an ongoing pattern of it.

By: ML in Chicagoland

ML in Chicagoland — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:04:58 +0000

I just landed here; don’t remember how. This post was just what I needed to hear. There are key people in my life that are Black Hearts (great name). I was told I was being “too sensitive” or “didn’t understand how we communicate”. Now I see how manipulative they really are.

I look forward to reading the rest of your past and future posts.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 22:40:06 +0000

Hi Timothy,
Thanks for purchasing my ebook! I’m glad you find it valuable. Free plugs are great!

Lack of self esteem does seem to be magnetic polar opposite of Dark Hearts, thus creating attraction. Funny thing is, Dark Hearts are the incredibly insecure, but their ego won’t let them know it.

By: Timothy

Timothy — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 01:33:52 +0000

Very good points, Lori. People who have been raised with little or no self-esteem are extremely vulnerable to the Dark Hearts of the world. Thanks for a great post–AND, btw, a great book. I’ll give you a free plug!

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 16:19:59 +0000

Hi Chris,
I like the outside-of-the-box approach to what some might see as an attack. Although I haven’t written a post on this yet, I know we mirror or attract certain people — often negatively when we and the other people have insecurities. We can grow when we take a fresh look at our true impact in the world. Knowledge and experience. It’s all about knowledge and experience.