Comments on: The Blame Game of emotional predators

By: Signs and traits of emotional predators and narcissists

Signs and traits of emotional predators and narcissists — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 03:34:23 +0000

[...] The Blame Game of emotional predators [...]

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 14:54:42 +0000

Hi Barbara,
From what I’ve seen, subtlety and subterfuge are the tools of Dark Hearts because they can play on the slightest guilt feelings, push our people-pleasing buttons, and leverage our desire to be good people. Knowing and naming their game helps clear the fog they use to surround a relationship.

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:57:41 +0000

Hi Lori,

As I was reading this, I was reminded of people both in my life and some who have touched my life who do/did just what you described. I never thought of it as being a way of taking the attention off of them, but the more I’ve thought of this, it’s so true.

I remember hearing years ago, “when we point a finger at someone else, we have three pointing back at us.” I keep that in mind when others are being demeaning (to me or others) and realize it’s usually their problem, not mine.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 16:47:27 +0000

Hi Davina,
Thank you for the affirmation!
And yes, insecurity is a tough one to overcome!

Hi Vered,
A friend wrote to tell me he calls these people, “The Evil Ones,” and Scott M Peck describes them as evil as well. I use the term “Dark Hearts” not to represent their evilness or badness so much as to express the lack of light, love, and truth inside their hearts.

By: Vered - MomGrind

Vered - MomGrind — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 16:40:50 +0000

Interesting. I tend to agree that there are essentially good and bad people, and that we should stay away from the bad ones, but some say that we are all a mix of good and bad and that there aren’t “bad people.”

By: Davina

Davina — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 06:34:51 +0000

Hi Lori. I LOVE the new direction you have taken with your blogging voice. This is a brilliant post. It is so easy to give our power away to others when we don’t see or believe how brilliant we already are.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 03:18:03 +0000

Hi Janice,
Hope you enjoy the reads at my other site.

Hi Betsy,
Thank you for the kind and wise sentiment.

Hi Kathy,
Subtlety indeed. I’ll show more of their subtle ways in a future post on how they can shade the truth.

By: Kathy | Virtual Impax

Kathy | Virtual Impax — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:59:07 +0000

Another great post Lori! You point out the KEY element in dealing with someone of the “Dark Heart” persuasion….subtlety!

Thanks for shining a bright light on a very dark subject!

By: Betsy

Betsy — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:23:33 +0000

This post should be a gift to every child. Rinse and repeat. Thank you, Lori.

By: janice

janice — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:31:40 +0000

Thanks, Lori. Another intriguing one. I feel we should be creeping down to Snape’s basement to read these…

I’ll check out your other blog tomorrow.