Comments on: Self defense as common sense is a rare trait http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/ Tips, Tutorials, and How-to for Self Defense Wed, 13 Jul 2011 14:32:29 -0700 hourly 1 By: Lori Hoeck http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1694 Lori Hoeck Thu, 24 Jun 2010 22:42:45 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1694 Hi Lori Franklin, I'm so glad you decided to drop by and comment. Nice to meet you, too! West Coast?! Hope you are coping with that ... Thank you for subscribing. Hi Lori Franklin,
I’m so glad you decided to drop by and comment. Nice to meet you, too!

West Coast?! Hope you are coping with that …

Thank you for subscribing.

]]> By: Lori Franklin http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1693 Lori Franklin Thu, 24 Jun 2010 20:21:20 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1693 Hi Lori, I have often seen your comments over a couple of my favorite blogger sites, so I thought it was time to check out your site -- honestly, I don't know what took me so long! ;) There are three awesome things about your that stood out right away: 1) Martial Arts! (I did a few years of training -- and it has carried through in my life -- good for you!) 2) Farmers in Oklahoma -- yee haw! I grew up on a farm in Nebraska -- practically in your back yard. You had me at, "bubble gum and baling wire"! (Although I live on the West Coast now...) 3) We're both named Lori and we both spell it the "right" way (ha ha). How cool is that? OK, that's it. I'm subscribing! Great to meet you, Lori. Hi Lori,
I have often seen your comments over a couple of my favorite blogger sites, so I thought it was time to check out your site — honestly, I don’t know what took me so long! ;)
There are three awesome things about your that stood out right away:
1) Martial Arts! (I did a few years of training — and it has carried through in my life — good for you!)
2) Farmers in Oklahoma — yee haw! I grew up on a farm in Nebraska — practically in your back yard. You had me at, “bubble gum and baling wire”! (Although I live on the West Coast now…)
3) We’re both named Lori and we both spell it the “right” way (ha ha). How cool is that?

OK, that’s it. I’m subscribing! Great to meet you, Lori.

]]> By: Lori Hoeck http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1685 Lori Hoeck Fri, 18 Jun 2010 02:30:45 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1685 Hi Hilary, Based on your other comments, I'd have guessed you intuitively understand code yellow. Be prepared <em>is </em>a great motto, but often neglected as a reality. Hi Hilary,
Based on your other comments, I’d have guessed you intuitively understand code yellow. Be prepared is a great motto, but often neglected as a reality.

]]> By: Hilary http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1683 Hilary Thu, 17 Jun 2010 19:34:28 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1683 Hi Lori .. you know I’d have said my generation and my parents’ generation did teach common sense, or perhaps it was part of growing up anyway .. but your comment about moments in life being segregated and not integrated .. do make sense .. however I now do look at the other side and don’t immediately react – but I would have got up straight away to that old boy .. and I’ve often been in those sort of situations – where I get others to help immediately .. because they are bigger or stronger .. Be prepared is such a good motto – and how true is it. I’d like to think I’m normally in code yellow .. I’m usually pretty aware of what’s going on around me .. Thanks – interesting and I went back to the Code Yellow post in November .. Have a good day tomorrow and the weekend .. Hilary Hi Lori .. you know I’d have said my generation and my parents’ generation did teach common sense, or perhaps it was part of growing up anyway .. but your comment about moments in life being segregated and not integrated .. do make sense .. however I now do look at the other side and don’t immediately react – but I would have got up straight away to that old boy .. and I’ve often been in those sort of situations – where I get others to help immediately .. because they are bigger or stronger ..

Be prepared is such a good motto – and how true is it. I’d like to think I’m normally in code yellow .. I’m usually pretty aware of what’s going on around me ..

Thanks – interesting and I went back to the Code Yellow post in November .. Have a good day tomorrow and the weekend .. Hilary

]]> By: Lori Hoeck http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1681 Lori Hoeck Thu, 17 Jun 2010 18:51:08 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1681 Hi OAD, Loved your post on the self defense class! I'm glad you found good instructors and learned a lot. Happy to have been a catalyst. I agree, the "let life happen to me" option rarely makes for a life of power, passion, and peak performance. Hi OAD,
Loved your post on the self defense class! I’m glad you found good instructors and learned a lot. Happy to have been a catalyst.

I agree, the “let life happen to me” option rarely makes for a life of power, passion, and peak performance.

]]> By: OAD http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1680 OAD Thu, 17 Jun 2010 17:03:34 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1680 Great post Lori! The biggest problem I see in the world is the lack of common sesnse, the lack of understanding the bigger picture and the not wanting to make a decision for yourself. So many people let life happen to them rather than living their life. This is how victims are born. I also agree with Betsy that parenting has a lot to do with it. I know so many people who fall into that "let life happen to me" category. They are utterly helpless and the sadest part is they could fix it themselves. Instead, they keep waiting for somebody else to come do it for them (a parent or the government or any other willing savior). On another note, I wanted to THANK YOU. At the beginning of the year you had made a post that said: "Yet, when self defense is learned as a life skill, the resulting boundary setting abilities, the awareness, and the body language knowledge can develop a powerful and healthy sense of: • “I am worth defending.” • “My emotions are worth protecting.” • “My well-being is worth leaving the influence of users, abusers, and narcissists.” " Which spurred me to take a self defense course. I researched and found what I believe was the best women's self defense class in my area and after a bunch of reschedules I finally took it this past weekend. I feel so much more confident that I could survive a physical attack. And it really did help to enforce all these emotional boundaries I have been working on. I wrote about the experience here: http://www.oneangrydaughter.com/2010/06/new-years-resolution-follow-up.html Great post Lori! The biggest problem I see in the world is the lack of common sesnse, the lack of understanding the bigger picture and the not wanting to make a decision for yourself. So many people let life happen to them rather than living their life. This is how victims are born.

I also agree with Betsy that parenting has a lot to do with it. I know so many people who fall into that “let life happen to me” category. They are utterly helpless and the sadest part is they could fix it themselves. Instead, they keep waiting for somebody else to come do it for them (a parent or the government or any other willing savior).

On another note, I wanted to THANK YOU. At the beginning of the year you had made a post that said:
“Yet, when self defense is learned as a life skill, the resulting boundary setting abilities, the awareness, and the body language knowledge can develop a powerful and healthy sense of:
• “I am worth defending.”
• “My emotions are worth protecting.”
• “My well-being is worth leaving the influence of users, abusers, and narcissists.”
”
Which spurred me to take a self defense course. I researched and found what I believe was the best women’s self defense class in my area and after a bunch of reschedules I finally took it this past weekend. I feel so much more confident that I could survive a physical attack. And it really did help to enforce all these emotional boundaries I have been working on. I wrote about the experience here:
http://www.oneangrydaughter.com/2010/06/new-years-resolution-follow-up.html

]]> By: Lori Hoeck http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1674 Lori Hoeck Wed, 16 Jun 2010 18:31:49 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1674 Hi Betsy, SO TRUE and well said: "Overprotection and underexposure to consequences, empathy, responsibility, and problem-solving on our feet have created this ineptitude." Hi Betsy,
SO TRUE and well said: “Overprotection and underexposure to consequences, empathy, responsibility, and problem-solving on our feet have created this ineptitude.”

]]> By: Betsy Wuebker http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/self-defense-as-common-sense-is-a-rare-trait/comment-page-1/#comment-1673 Betsy Wuebker Wed, 16 Jun 2010 17:59:58 +0000 http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/?p=3591#comment-1673 Hi Lori - Generational failure to teach common sense has a lot to do with how ridiculously dependent kids have been and are kept in the guise of keeping them "safe," or "making things easier for them than they were when we were growing up." Obviously, this isn't the personal safety level you're recommending, where someone else is responsible for ours. It's hard to rise to the occasion using common sense if you've not had any of the occasions that sequentially build up to it. Overprotection and underexposure to consequences, empathy, responsibility, and problem-solving on our feet have created this ineptitude. Classic example: an elderly relative, a big man who was not too sure on his feet, suddenly fell backward from a seated, mixed group of varying ages. I was shocked at who sprang up to assist and who sat frozen, waiting for someone else to literally do the heavy lifting. Hi Lori – Generational failure to teach common sense has a lot to do with how ridiculously dependent kids have been and are kept in the guise of keeping them “safe,” or “making things easier for them than they were when we were growing up.” Obviously, this isn’t the personal safety level you’re recommending, where someone else is responsible for ours.

It’s hard to rise to the occasion using common sense if you’ve not had any of the occasions that sequentially build up to it. Overprotection and underexposure to consequences, empathy, responsibility, and problem-solving on our feet have created this ineptitude. Classic example: an elderly relative, a big man who was not too sure on his feet, suddenly fell backward from a seated, mixed group of varying ages. I was shocked at who sprang up to assist and who sat frozen, waiting for someone else to literally do the heavy lifting.

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