Red flag behavior of users and narcissists

by Lori Hoeck on December 21, 2009

Beyond the Self Defense Tweets:
Taken randomly from my self defense tweets on Twitter.  I write super-short blog posts to go Beyond the Tweet, chosen from the archives.

The Tweet:

ImperialCat

"I was born to be adored."

Red Flag behavior from abuser/user, #4: Relationship seems awash in guilt, defensiveness, arrogance, & inconsistency.

Beyond the Tweet:

Narcissists, emotional predators, or Dark Hearts live in a world of their own creation.

In this world, they are the hero. Others should therefore always be respectful, give preference, and say only good things to and about the narcissist. To do otherwise is an affront to users and abusers. They won’t say it, but they act like  “How dare you do anything less than perfectly adore and worship the ground I walk on?!”

When a person believes something that isn’t real — that they are God’s gift in some way to this world — anything you do to upset their apple cart creates an onslaught of guilt slinging, defensiveness, and narcissistic rage. The latter is an out-of-proportion reaction by a narcissist to something said or done by another that the narcissist views as inappropriate.

The constant upheaval of defensiveness and over-the-top reactions turn the relationship into a raging sea of inconsistency that will drive you crazy if you let it!

(NOTE: My cat is not a narcissist. She’s just, well, a cat.)


Lori Hoeck

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