The best self defensive move against an attack is not to be there when it happens …
A few years ago a business acquaintance signed up for one my assault prevention seminars. The session turned her world from black and white to color. Like many people who live in a fairly safe environment, my friend assumed she was safe and did not feel any extra awareness was necessary.
Not long after my class, she was driving home late at night and had to stop at a traffic light. As she waited for the long light to turn green, she noticed three things:
✦ Few people or cars were in view
✦ A nearby person was angling his way towards her car
✦ The person instantly made her feel uncomfortable
Before taking my class, she would have never noticed any of this. She used to live in a naive bubble, fairly oblivious to her personal safety.
She now realized she was responsible for her self defense. In the past, her need to obey the law would have overridden her sense of safety, and she would have stayed put as the man drew closer — no matter what — until the light turned green.
Remembering back to my class where I taught breaking the rules and lying is OK when your safety is on the line, she decided, “Why wait until I know for sure this man is coming for me, when by then it could already be too late?”
With an urgency to take charge, she put her car in gear, checked that no cars were nearby, and drove through the red light and away from any possible danger.
Would the man have attacked or attempted to carjack her vehicle? Who knows? Prevention can’t be quantified. You can’t poll criminals for their target selection statistics. All my friend knows about what happened is that she will always value:
✦ Being aware – she scanned her environment
✦ Observing patterns – a person approaching her car at night might be trouble
✦ Listening to her intuition – she honored her suspicions
✦ Avoiding possible attacks – she drove through a red light
I don’t always advocate rule-breaking, law-breaking, or even a preemptive strike as a normal course of action, but it is important to realize we all have a right to self defense – especially by avoiding an unnecessary situation altogether.
What would you have done if you were her?
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