When it comes to defending our inner well-being or our lives, it’s important how we view the world’s impact on us. We need evaluate our feelings about personal power.
For example, do we feel our lives are like yo-yos, dependent on the input or feelings of others:
- Does our day and energy go up and down with the situations around us?
- Do we feel proud when someone brags about us, but down when we aren’t recognized?
- Do we fear looking out of place or saying the wrong thing most of the time?
If our inner state is dependent on how well received we are by others, our well-being is a boat bouncing on the sea of circumstance. Our inner well-being will always be buffeted by the next withering glare, shrunken by someone’s embarrassment at us, or squelched by a more powerful personality wanting to exert itself.
Yes, it’s tough to:
- disregard the opinions of others
- have the inner strength to shrug off criticism
- feel comfortable in our own skin
But when we give away our inner state to the whims of others or to circumstances, we will be less inclined to defend ourselves, to stand up for our ideas, or to make sure no one crosses the line with us.
Compare that mindset to these three quotes:
From now on, I’ll connect the dots my own way. ~Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes
I LIVE to think for myself. I refuse to be a mindless sheep following the crowd into cookie-cutter oblivion. Otherwise I’d just be a zombie with no heart or passion in life. ~Hervey Taylor IV
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. ~Dr. Seuss
What empowers you to stand up for yourself?
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