Comments on: How narcissists weaponize their interactions

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 03:07:34 +0000

Hi Walter,
Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

Yes, a tough part of outgrowing narcissists is letting go of the guilt — or other personal issues –that leaves us susceptible, isn’t it?

By: Walter

Walter — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 23:23:37 +0000

Narcissist will always be a fact of life. We can learn from them but we should make sure that we see the lessons. Let us remember the fact that we are not perfect. The guilt within us will only have power if we allow it, the influence of a narcissists can affect us, if we let it.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 05:05:58 +0000

Hi Davina,
Narcissistic personalities must always hold power and control — even if it is only in their own minds.

By: Davina

Davina — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 02:45:30 +0000

Hi Lori.
“Narcissists sabotage your attempts to express yourself.” That really takes your power away and gives them control. You’ve given some great suggestions here too. The narcissist’s statements almost sound like something a young child would say when they are challenging a parent, and interesting how that is based on emotions; the very thing they are using against their “target”.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 16:20:20 +0000

Hi Janice!
I’m glad you felt the post timely. I was wondering if it was a bit heavy for the holiday, but then again narcissists never take a day off!

Standing up to a Dark Heart can pump up their narcissistic rage or make them pump up the drama with the attitude of: “I’m going to withdraw until you apologize.” I’m glad you understand the value of standing up for yourself and letting them deal with their own issues!

Good to see your comments again!

By: janice

janice — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 19:26:55 +0000

Hi there, Lori. I’ve just logged on after a long break and coming here felt like a homecoming. Such a timely post for so many people. There’s someone in my life I can often apply your dark heart advice to, so thank you. I liked these possible responses; I wish you could have been there with me to remind me of the most fitting ones a few weeks ago. I stood up to someone quietly and bravely and the effect was startling. Unfortunately, the person in question was shocked, stormed off in angry and hurt indignation and has since chosen pointed silence as a tactic. I can live with that for now; I’d simply had enough of being bullied, talked over, talked down to and talked at.