Comments on: Has a narcissist tried this manipulation on you?

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 01:05:33 +0000

Every effort on my part to leave is being cut down…I shouldve realized the warning signs when I was 18, I am 24 now. At age 18 they did it gradually and stealthy…they made fun of my plans, laughed at them for being ridiculous and that I watch too much tv, because I wanted to become a cook. I picked up boxing for selfdefense as I was picked on as a kid and my dad went berserk and threw my boxing equipment away, cause of course he was threatend by the idead that he would no longer have the physical upperhand, which he used when I was 22 and for the first time didnt want to visit grandmother, like we do every year. My mother tells me that I will never amount to anything anyway and that I should go steal. I have started studying, but quit to go to the army. My parents don’t even acknowledge this. They say I havent done shit. Yeah…anybody who lived with a narcissist knows what I’m talking about…what the hell do I do?…they have systematically erased me. I dont even feel human anymore.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 00:53:43 +0000

Help…I live with 3 narcissists…My mother, my father and my older sister who are all drilling me simultaniously with this sort of stuff. My older sister keeps running after me, without me asking, sends me emails with university infromation etc., then tricked me into talking to a pychiatrist about our parents and suddenly she started crying about what a burden I am on her and how she can’t handle it . The psychiatrist looked at me like I was the devil and wanted to place me under the care of a guardian. She then uses this against me with my narcissistic parents. All three of them keep cutting into me. All the narcissistic manipulation and control are coming at me from 3 sides. I don’t know how to describe it. I’ve become a Zombie. I can’t move, it’s like im paralyzed, while being suffocated…

By: Survivor

Survivor — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:38:29 +0000

I am now the the beginning process of trying to find myself again and not allow him to bring me down. He claims all of his past relationships were great and they just ended because of other reasons (for example his ex girlfriend I believe works for the CIA and according to him she didnt want to move to CA with him) but I on the other hand am the crazy one because he has never had these problems before. It’s hard I won’t lie but I am feeling much better each day with people like you posting sites on the internet to inform many women who may be in a similar situation. I started typing about how Steve and I started and even thought about writing a book about it. I may never get to the point of publishing but something so that I can share with others around me and they can understand how these type of people just get into our lives and don’t reveal their true selves, sometimes, until it too late.

By: Survivor

Survivor — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:29:39 +0000

Lori and David,
I had explored some of the links that have been posted before i found this site. I feel very strongly about informing people about these type of people. I have just started more research. I just got out of a relationship with one. He was the worst person I have ever met. Sad part, I let him take control and didnt realize what he really was doing until after I got pregnant. Even then I thought he would change. Thinking I was the crazy one at the same time I tried hard to figure out what I can do differently to make things better in our relationship. It was only when he almost choked me while trying to take our son from my arms when I got a rude awakening. The problem now was how to get out. We had moved to Dallas and I had no one to help me out. I finally just quit my job and left back to my family. He started getting physical once I started standing up for myself. There was a book that I read that helped me see more clearly that he was the crazy one. “The Verbally Abusive Relationship, How to recognize it and how to respond,” By Patricia Evens. WOW that was the best thing I can do was read that book to make me realize I needed to get out. He also got fired for pornography and stalking me on my computer at work, we both worked for the same company, he still denies he has a problem.

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By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:46:27 +0000

Hi David,
My comment settings doesn’t allow comments with lots of links to prevent spam. Thus your reply went into moderation until I could approve it.

Your site is excellent. Thanks for the resource!

My education comes from a journalism degree, life-long research skills, and the school of hard knocks, not psychiatry. I spent 5 years of hard emotional labor figuring out that I was being manipulated by a narcissist.

By: David

David — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:33:03 +0000

I will try post 18 again.

I have long lists of narc/psycho red flags
http://www.bullyeq.com/strange_psycho_behaviour.htm
and manipulative wheezes
http://www.bullyeq.com/corporate_wheezes.htm

on my website http://www.bullyeq.com but cant put them straight up on Wikipedia as you cant link to self research and text has to supported by a referenced citation by a acknowledged expert in the fleld such as a psychiatrist.

By: David

David — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:16:47 +0000

Moderator – my post 18 says “Awaiting Moderation.”

By: David

David — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:14:51 +0000

Lori Hoeck – your links are good. How come you are so well informed ? Are you trained in psychiatry ?

Incidentally anybody can work on Wikipedia – its just that any contributions have to conform to certain rules such as text should be supported by an authoritative citation.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:29:22 +0000

Hi David,
I understand. Perhaps someone else will read this and contact you. A network is a powerful thing!