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By: Cathy

Cathy — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 22:44:08 +0000

Hi! I’ve been married to one for years, and now he is chronically ill and he has become Super Crazymaker! It takes huge efforts of will and self-protection not to step on the landmines they plant. Lately, after years of resenting my talking about people at work, he has just complained that, as his life is so dull, if I just talked about my day more and “stopped keeping things from him” he would be happier.
I said, “You hate those stories!” He said “I never said that!” and “I have nothing to do all day, no one to talk to, the least you can do is share your life with me!”
Crazy!

By: Vered - MomGrind

Vered - MomGrind — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:04:23 +0000

Yup, I used to have one of those as a “friend.”

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 13:19:41 +0000

Hi Kathy,
I know in any relationship, it takes two to tango, and my goal is to make sure we recognize certain “dance partners” as less healthy than others.

Hi Betsy,
I hear ya! Since we can’t change other people, we have to make different choices to avoid unsafe or crazy-making relationships.

Hi Davina,
I agree, and yet Dark Hearts know how to smoothly sucker you into their web so by the time you notice it is all just so much self-important drama and hype, — not just personality — you are likely to think it’s your problem, not theirs.

By: Davina

Davina — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 06:10:55 +0000

Hi Lori. I’ve worked with people like this, but thankfully not directly. I’ve heard of them through chatter in the hallways. My mother (bless her heart) falls into this category; but she never downplayed our needs. The real challenge in dealing with these personality types is to not take things personally and to not get caught up in all their drama.

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:03:44 +0000

Hi Lori – I’ve been thinking and it seems as though they have been a constant presence. Same behavior, different perps. The best thing I’ve found is to eliminate them from your life – quit the job, divorce them, minimize contact, etc. It’s radical, but the older I get the more priceless I feel my peace is. You’re doing a great service here. This series is the best. Thank you.

By: Kathy | Virtual Impax

Kathy | Virtual Impax — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 20:49:11 +0000

I have had what feels like MORE than my fair share of “crazy makers” – to the point where one of my colleagues actually bought and sent me a desk set when she saw it. The mug, mouse pad and plaque all read, “Please – let me drop everything I’m doing so I can work on solving YOUR problem!”

The thing is, I’d never “labeled” these people prior to discovering your blog. I thought perhaps there was something wrong with me because these select clients were driving me literally CRAZY!!!

Great post!!! Great illustrations!!!