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Are you ready to free yourself from narcissists?

narcissist_mockup1“I wished I had this
information years ago.”

Easily a dozen people who’ve already taken a sneak peek at The Narcissist: A User’s Guide have said those words to my co-author Betsy Wuebker of Passing Thru and me.

I’ve said them myself. So has my husband.

  • Who wouldn’t want a guide to steer them away from a nasty, drama-filled relationship?
  • Who wouldn’t want to know why certain relationships are so maddening and draining?
  • Who wouldn’t want to thwart others from verbally and emotionally bullying, belittling, and brow-beating them?

Betsy and I have endured our respective narcissists and survived to tell and write about it. Now we offer our hard-won, passionate, and “rueful” wisdom, as Betsy calls it, as an ebook.

Want to know more? Take a look at
The Narcissist — A User’s Guide

Here are what what two others online writers say about The Narcissist: A User’s Guide:

I read The Narcissist: A User’s Guide.  I started it and I couldn’t put it down… At 29 pages long, it is a crash course in narcissism, but it touches on everything someone about to make the jump to emotional freedom would want to know…The value of the advice given is that it is aimed at making a positive change in you, rather than dwelling on the person with the disorder.  It is taking control of what can be changed and accepting what cannot.
One Angry Daughter


If you’re dealing with a narcissist right now, this ebook is a must. It will show you that you are not alone, that you are NOT crazy, and that there ARE ways to cope with the narcissist in your life – including leaving them, and learning to avoid entering into a new codependent relationship in the future…I’ve read many self development books and ebooks, and this is by far one of the most empowering guides I have ever come across. Highly recommended!
Vered DeLeeuw

You owe it to yourself and your children to arm yourself with this potent version of narcissists’ Kryptonite! You can learn more information here.

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  • Betsy Wuebker February 2, 2010, 5:27 am

    Hi Lori – It has been an honor and a great pleasure working on this project with you. I never imagined that so many good things could come out of such a difficult situation, but they have. It is so heartening to realize that others can benefit from what we’ve learned. But even more heartening is the number of people who have shared that the e-book has helped them gain understanding and take action towards a healthier, happier path through life. Thank you, my friend.

  • Cyndi February 2, 2010, 6:53 am

    I downloaded the book and it is excellent and so well put together too.

    The information contained in it is excellent and I appreciate your providing it free of charge. I hope it helps a lot of people.

    I have to admit I was surprised to see multiple links back to Sam Vak nin. He is a controversial source, being a narcissist himself. When I first found him I got sucked in, just as he intends. What I have discovered is that he is really just creating more and more “followers” to buy his book with all that he posts online and every link back to him provides him with narcissistic supply in the form of attention, page rank, and book sales.

  • Lori Hoeck February 2, 2010, 8:22 am

    Hi Betsy,
    Thank you for your positive response when I first mentioned collaboration to you and for the roller coaster ride since! It’s been healing, empowering, and inspirational. Yes, who knew from the pain of the past, we could so help so many others?

    Hi Cyndi,
    Thank you for your feedback and support.

    What you say of SV is true. But, it was his writings that helped me finally leave my narcissists, so the symmetry of using one narcissist against another makes a certain ironic sense to me. Plus, I don’t want to let a narcissist control me “in reverse” either.

  • Hilary February 3, 2010, 2:05 am

    Hi Lori and Betsy .. just asked for the download – so I’m sure it’ll be here shortly. It sounds as though the book is relevant for all of us – as we can learn so much how to approach people in general and obviously with the added aspects of dealing with narcistic and difficult people. Thanks – I shall ‘enjoy’ reading it and I’m sure learn from it .. I can see a few reviews around – so those will give us extra insights. Well done for a)the book and for coming through your challenges and being at this point – it must make life feel easier .. great to be with you – Hilary

  • Lori Hoeck February 8, 2010, 7:55 pm

    Hi Hilary,
    Thank you for downloading the ebook. I’m sure you will find it eye-opening! The reviewers have been kind, as have you.

  • susan knight May 13, 2010, 2:09 pm

    Hi, I tried to get your ebook but the file was damaged. Can I still get it? Thanks

  • Lori Hoeck May 14, 2010, 2:40 pm

    Hi Susan,
    Not sure what has happened but all downloads seem to be going fine. You may want to try again with another email account. Thanks.

  • Tracy January 21, 2011, 9:53 am

    Hi Lori,

    Thankyou for the very useful free ebook. I am wondering if there is any good reads in regards to the children of an N parent. My best friend is miserable, but insists if she leaves the children would be worse off. I know when they fight the two teenage boys cling to him and agree with everything he says because they are fearful of how he might punish them. Not physically, but emotionally. He would even sabotage their sports events to show whos boss. The two little ones cling to their mom. She does not work and even home schools…..so he has full control of her and uses the fact she does not work and could never make it without him on her own. He will punish her by taking her keys to car, cell phone and debit card when he is mad at her. Anyway, I guess I have not found much info in regards to women with kids and 100% financially bound to the N. THEN add in that his parents also blame her for everything and stand behind their son 100%. PLEASE give advice!!!!!!! Thank you, Tracy PS:I know she is very afraid of the manipulation and mind games her husband will use with the kids, but his proclaimed Christian parents as well. They too are NEVER wrong. Tracy

  • Tracy January 21, 2011, 9:55 am

    I meant to say not only afraid of…….

  • Lori Hoeck January 21, 2011, 5:34 pm

    Hi Tracy
    Thank you for visiting and thanks for commenting. Your friend’s situation is sadly one of many I keep hearing about. May I suggest this site for more information on what to do?